It’s hard giving people advice. Regardless of your intentions, it might end up stabbing the other person in the back, and they’ll blame you for it, even though you thought it would be best for them. However, you could really help the other person, and then get more people asking you for advice. That’s why people don’t just ask anyone for advice, they have a selected group of people they ask for advice to. The group of people someone trusts to get advice from is usually seen the most when it comes to important decisions, because you could ask anyone which movie to watch, but when it comes to deciding which college to attend, you only want certain people helping you make the decision.
Helping others take big decisions is like being part of a suicide hotline (in far less extreme situations, of course). First of all, you attend someone in need, and their future could change because of what you tell them, however, you must keep in mind that in the end it's their decision to make, and it’s your job to tell them what you think is best, not to tell them what they want to hear, or try to convince them to follow your advice. In important situations where the ‘asker’ is confused, they’ll probably do what you tell them to, that’s why it's important to, when asking for advice, ask people you can trust.
Sometimes people have different views on certain scenarios because they have already lived them, and how it turned out for them has altered the way the view them. It has happened to me many times, but never when taking big decisions. However, a situation that perfectly fits this is the typical “my boy/girlfriend cheated on me” moment. If you ask someone that has already gone through that, and maybe they trusted their partner, but ended up getting dumped for the other guy/girl, they’ll probably advise you not to trust your boy/girlfriend, and you think that they’re right, but maybe you should’ve trusted them, and sene how things went, so it’s also important to keep in mind when giving advice is to think objectively. On the other hand, it's sometimes smart to recur to people that have had a similar experience, because it’s also true that we learn from our mistakes, and going to people that have already made those mistakes, or were given the opportunity to make the mistake but didn’t, is where we’ll get the most information about our doubts.
Advice can help, and advice can hurt. It depends mostly on who you ask, and how you choose to take their advice. No matter how much you trust someone to whom you’re asking for advice, you must never follow their advice as if you had a blindfold on. It’s important to always take into consideration, through your own perspective, how following their advice could impact you in the end. For those giving advice, it’s important not to sweet-talk the other person, or to try and convince them to follow your advice. In the end, it’s their decision. Also, don’t go around giving advice if you’re not asked for it. An assistant at a suicide hotline isn’t calling ‘customers’ all day, he/she is waiting for calls to then assist others. It can be smart to ask people that have already lived the situation you’re having doubts about, but it’s also important to make sure that these people are thinking objectively, and not being driven purely on their own personal experience. Remember that the suicide hotline goes both ways, and if you don’t like what the assistant is telling you, you can always hang up the phone and do what you had planned out to. Good luck on the hotline!
Helping others take big decisions is like being part of a suicide hotline (in far less extreme situations, of course). First of all, you attend someone in need, and their future could change because of what you tell them, however, you must keep in mind that in the end it's their decision to make, and it’s your job to tell them what you think is best, not to tell them what they want to hear, or try to convince them to follow your advice. In important situations where the ‘asker’ is confused, they’ll probably do what you tell them to, that’s why it's important to, when asking for advice, ask people you can trust.
Sometimes people have different views on certain scenarios because they have already lived them, and how it turned out for them has altered the way the view them. It has happened to me many times, but never when taking big decisions. However, a situation that perfectly fits this is the typical “my boy/girlfriend cheated on me” moment. If you ask someone that has already gone through that, and maybe they trusted their partner, but ended up getting dumped for the other guy/girl, they’ll probably advise you not to trust your boy/girlfriend, and you think that they’re right, but maybe you should’ve trusted them, and sene how things went, so it’s also important to keep in mind when giving advice is to think objectively. On the other hand, it's sometimes smart to recur to people that have had a similar experience, because it’s also true that we learn from our mistakes, and going to people that have already made those mistakes, or were given the opportunity to make the mistake but didn’t, is where we’ll get the most information about our doubts.
Advice can help, and advice can hurt. It depends mostly on who you ask, and how you choose to take their advice. No matter how much you trust someone to whom you’re asking for advice, you must never follow their advice as if you had a blindfold on. It’s important to always take into consideration, through your own perspective, how following their advice could impact you in the end. For those giving advice, it’s important not to sweet-talk the other person, or to try and convince them to follow your advice. In the end, it’s their decision. Also, don’t go around giving advice if you’re not asked for it. An assistant at a suicide hotline isn’t calling ‘customers’ all day, he/she is waiting for calls to then assist others. It can be smart to ask people that have already lived the situation you’re having doubts about, but it’s also important to make sure that these people are thinking objectively, and not being driven purely on their own personal experience. Remember that the suicide hotline goes both ways, and if you don’t like what the assistant is telling you, you can always hang up the phone and do what you had planned out to. Good luck on the hotline!